May Stands: Research says that if you come from a divorced parental family that you will get a divorce. I think that there are other criteria to measure, like at of marriage, pregnancy marriage (shot gun wedding).
Jude Colbenson: No. Hopefully the child would grow up and learn the negative (or positive?) aspects of divorces. Perhaps, he would not put his kids through the same experience.
Dedra Furguson: More likely. Fidelity is something you learn. There is a component of core values associated with it (innate vs taught) but, for the most part, parents teach their children how to be married (successfully) or not. What does a child learn from divorced parents? How to be divorced. Got it?
Noah Deni: a lot of people from older generations beleive that but I sure hope not. The issue in todays society is that marraige is not taken seriously. People go into with the attitude that they can get divorced if it doesn't work, instead of if it doesn't work! we need to work harder at.
Lynn Mctier: My girlfriend says she will never divorce me if we got married because according to her, divorce ruins people. However, she grew up with divorced parents, do you believe she might end up divorcing me anyway?
Randa Hessell: Statistics say that yes they are more likley to- But I think that should not discourage any child of divorced parents because you make your own decisions.
Barrett Zheng: I had parents that divorced...both of them multiple times...let me tell you...it is almost easier to do it. You see that they get through it and move on. I have been married 2x (I got married way too early the first time!) and I quit easily the first time. This time...it can be tough but I am putting everything into it to make sure that I STAY married! Divorce is easy! MArriage is hard! But it is BY FAR worth it to be with the man/woman that you love.
Miguel Densley: I would say that they are more likely to divorce if their! parents are divorced. Those who come from homes where they h! ave see their grandparents and parents work together to solve their own marital issues, are more likely to have learned those skills themselves.
Porfirio Cahall: It depends what he or she thinks and if the person they marry are perfect then why would he or she want a divorce even if there parents were divorced.
Carter Edstrom: My parents divorced when I was 7 years old. I divorced my husband after 15 years and 2 kids later. I dont think it has anything to do with my parents just the *** hole I married!! Of course your girlfriend says she would never divorce you, I said the same thing to my husband, but hey ho 3 years after the court case I am still here to tell the tale!!
Lawana Neemann: children of divorce are more likely to be on Ritalin. fact.Fact: Children from divorced families are more likely to have academic problems. They are more likely to be aggressive and get in trouble with school authorities or the police. These children are more likely to hav! e low self-esteem and feel depressed. Children who grow up in divorced families often have more difficulties getting along with siblings, peers, and their parents. Also, in adolescence, they are more likely to engage in delinquent activities, to get involved in early sexual activity, and to experiment with illegal drugs. In adolescence and young adulthood, they are more likely to have some difficulty forming intimate relationships and establishing independence from their families.Children of divorced parents often bitterly vow not to repeat the same mistakes. They want to avoid putting themselves and their own children through the pain that comes from the dissolution of a marriage. But, according to University of Utah researcher Nicholas H. Wolfinger, these children’s aspirations face unfavorable odds."Growing up in a divorced family greatly increases the chances of ending one’s own marriage, a phenomenon called the divorce cycle or the intergenerational transmission of! divorce,†says Wolfinger, assistant professor in the University of U! tah’s Department of Family and Consumer Studies.Wolfinger has spent a decade studying the marriages of children from divorced homes in America. These children are more likely to marry as teens, cohabitate and marry someone who is also a child of divorced parents. And they are also one-third less likely to marry if they are over age 20.Wolfinger’s new book is devoted entirely to the divorce cycle. "Understanding the Divorce Cycle: The Children of Divorce in Their Own Marriages," published by Cambridge University Press...Show more
Hunter Osterberger: Personallly, I'd have to say "NO". because my parents divorced, I swore, I'd never divorce.........well I ended up being married 3 times!! Strike 3 and I'm OUT!!Stopping from becomeing divorce takes 2 very strong people who valuse their vows and 2 whom will go to any lenghths to keep the marriage strong.
William Vickerman: could go either way, depends on the reason for the divorce and how badly the child! was affected:1 - a divorce will be more likely because the child has not witnessed fully the sanctity of marriage and therefore could decide to give up when things get tough2 - a divorce will be less likely as the child knows first-hand the rough time his parents (and he) had as a direct result of the divorce, and would not like to experience that (or for his children to experience that) therefore he would be more inclined to do whatever it took to make the marriage work.Have I actually answered your question here or just stated the plain obvious? Apologies if you feel I have!...Show more
Karl Samiec: The percentage of a child growing up and later divorcing, brings on a lot higher risk of history repeating itself.
Leisa Brodnex: You know that is a good question. In my first marriage I stayed with this guy for 13 years I didn't want to divorce because my parents did. Well I talked to god and he helped realize that what I thought was love was not.I asked my mo! ther if I could move back in she lied down some rules . The man I marri! ed a year in a half is a dream come true. So to answer your question It all depends if you find real true communication in your relationship . I have found out that some times it's best to have a reliable, understanding ,compatible ,relationship. Try looking at your compatible relationship threw open eyes...Best of Luck.......Show more
Josefine Weekey: This will really depend on the person involved..Some children from a divorced family are so paranoid about commitment that they may never even be in a meaningful relationship.Others will be more cautious and WILL find a partner who they can be with the rest of their lives.BUT, then there will be the people who lived through the divorce of their parents, and now just see it as a way out.My husband and I both come from families that are NOT divorced, and neither he nor I see divorce as an option....Show more
Seema Hosfeld: People answering this question, could you please star this question if you think its good tha! t way I can get more opinions, i gladly appreciate it.
Rheba Cockman: Not always, some people take what they learned from their parents and use it to better their marriage. For me I don't want my little girl to go through what I had to.
Ervin Laeger: I would say it depends on if the child has some kind of married couple role model to look up to, they may have a stronger belief in marriage and not divorce.
Tricia Dossous: No - that child has grown up seeing dysfunction in relationships. They've seen that their parents don't take commitment seriously, and they haven't seen their parents truly LOVE each other.These things will make them MORE likely to divorce themselves.However, if it's the choice between unloving parents staying together for the sake of the child or geting a divorce, the child will do much better with divorced parents. Kids aren't stupid, staying married only prolongs their exposure to unhealthy relationships & they'll be more likely to b! e in one as well.Best option? CHOOSE to love each other, go to counsel! ing. If it's not a two-way commitment, get out and save your child while you still can....Show more
Verena Koop: Divorce is between husband and wife. What parents did has nothing to do with your marriage.....unless you do not really have a mind of your own.
Luana Carothers: no, probably he won't cause he has experience in choosing the right person especially when he saw how hard it is to grow up with only one parent...it's all about destiny and how much time you take and spend with that person before you get married with her.you have to make sure that he / she is the right person that you want to spend the rest of your life with
Debora Soliani: Your parents or other family members have nothing to do with it unless your partner has issues with the divorce itself. When two people get married it is because they love eachother they don't take into account if their parents are married or if their parents love eachother. When two people get divorced it is bec! ause of problems in their relationship not because of problems in their parents relationship. My parents have been married almost 50 years. I have been divorced twice. My husbands parents divorced when he was in his 20s. He has been divorced once. While our parents give us some perspective on how relationships work whether it is a good or bad perspective. It is how we as adults handle any incoming data or information. If you are truly in love with someone it comes naturally. There is no forcing it and other outside things don't play into it. The divorces come from people who think that they are in love and they are trying to force the love when in acutallity it isn't real love that you are in. This is from experience. My first marriage- I loved the idea of being married the stability that I thought marriage would bring to my life. It was all about the act of marriage and not my spouse. My second marriage- my spouse had two children and at the point in my life I! wanted to be a Mom and a wife. so again it was about the act of being! a Mother and a wife. Now on my third marriage and it is all about my spouse. I didn't realize what love was until him. We have been together 14 years now and it still amazes me the feelings that we have....Show more
Arlene Maycumber: that's a question that is hard to answer. i would say they are prone to divorce because they have seen it but when the smoke clears, it is up to the couple that they are ready for marriage and have the qualtities it takes to keep the marriage like; compromise, love and satisfied with the person they are with as well as loyalty
Tatiana Evanosky: i'm pretty sure I read that statistically people from divorced parents are more likely to get a divorce. While people whose parents stayed married are more likely to stay married.
Hunter Beech: Here's a case example for you. My wife and I have been married 21 years and certainly don't have any divorce in sight.My parents never divorced and are still together after more than 50 year! s of marriage.My wife's mother was never married to her biological father, and when he died, my wife had not seen him in many, many years.Based on my own experience, I believe there is no direct correlation between parents' marital effectiveness and their children's....Show more
Inell Riesgo: I don't think it has any influence. I know couples who grew up with divorced parents and they got divorced as well. It is much easier to get a divorce nowadays, then it was back in the old days. Women stayed with their men, because they were housewifes with no jobs and didn't know where to go. They just stayed for the kids sake. It was not acceptable to get a divorce when you lived in a small town. Basically, I believe it is our society that makes it so acceptable nowadays to get a divorce. Unfortunately, people are to busy or don't give it much effort to work things out. The women are emancipated and are able to make a living on their own....Show more
Ricardo Rozelle: Dep! ends on the person. My parents divorced and I felt that I would try any! thing to make my marriage work. Unfortunately, my marriage got so bad, it was better for everyone that divorce happen. My children seem happier, I'm happier, but my ex is kinda self destructing. (My kids do live with me.)...Show more
Alonso Crehan: on the contrary, I think more likely. Divorce is a culture. the culture either exist in the family so it is easy for everyone to divorce (a chain reaction type) or it doesn't exist so rarely people divorce.
Giovanna Sherlin: No. Whether a couple divorces or not has nothing to do with their respective parents. Only the two people married to each other can determine a divorce. If the two people were not right for each other in a long term relationship, that would cause a divorce.
Misty Vagle: Probably more likely to divorce than less because you have to see successful relationships modelled to even believe they're possible. My parents divorced when I was 3 years old. I married when I was 20 years old, I was as ! idealistic a person as was humanly possible, but after 12 years Istill wound up getting a divorce. Was that my parents' fault? Of course not, but I had no frame of reference for seeing someone stick it out through all sorts of life-changes. Marriage is hard for everybody; it's enormous work far beyond what you can even imagine is necessary when you first get involved in it...Little things here and there give you an edge at coping and surviving where other folks collapse; any success you can see and pattern your behavior after will help you make a healthy relationship a reality....Show more
Romeo Tinnea: I say to that question, just because a parent divorce does not mean that you will divorce. When you go into a marriage in for the long haul. And sometime, parents stay together at that time, because when the children are small they do not want both parent out of the picture, so they stay there for the children. Now on the other hand because your parents situation does ! mean that it will happen to you, if you are being honest with the marr! iage, and both trust each other and try to work out things with out involving other, then you can make it....Show more
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